HP, I understand your frustration. I've not been DF'd or DA'ed. However, I left my family (Mom and Dad) years ago because they supported a sibling who was on a character assassination move towards my family. I was going to the meetings, field service, volunteering at construction sites, and pre-convention work, and the family was already shunning me. Once I was away from friends and family influences and had some time to think I figured out the Truth about the Truth and stopped immediately.
The rift within the family still cuts deeply and I feel a loss for at least an occasional phone call relationship with my Mother. However, If Mom were to call up today to say hi, what would we talk about? Let's get real. I work in big time heavy construction projects which she is probably not interested. I haven't been to a meeting or assembly of any kind in over a decade. We used to talk about the "truth" for hours, deconstructing and reconstructing ideas. Mom wouldn't be happy with me talking about why I am not attending meetings or not actively pursuing spiritual goals. I guess I could talk about the overlapping generation doctrine, but I don't think that would that would go far.
Although painful, I have to recognize that I have taken an alternative "other road" and yes! it has consequences. You take the blue or the red pill and recognize the consequences.
I don't know why this topic has pained me lately so, but it has. I wish the best for you, it is so hard with beloved parents, but we have chosen different paths an we have to Man up about it. Slab some bacon on a biscuit and lets ride!